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When successful families can't acknowledge their changed circumstances

My siblings and I are successful professionals now, but when we get together for holidays, we all pretend we still live like we did growing up - we split cheap dinner checks to the penny and stay in budget hotels. None of us wants to be the first one to suggest we could afford something nicer, because we're all afraid of seeming like we think we're better than our parents.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

Adults are discovering that loyalty to their origins has become a prison that prevents them from integrating their current reality with their family identity.

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