My sister and I both inherited significant student loan debt and family obligations, but she's been sending money to our parents while I've been aggressively paying down loans, and now we're fighting about who's being more responsible. Neither approach is clearly right but we keep judging each other's choices and it's affecting how we talk about money and family at all.
More people experience this than they realize.
Two people facing similar financial pressures have chosen different strategies and are now using those choices to judge each other's values and character.
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