My spouse wants us to invest our savings in index funds for retirement, but I'm uncomfortable with the fact that means we'd be profiting from companies whose practices go against our values, and we can't find a compromise between ethical investing and financial security that we both feel good about.
More people experience this than they realize.
You're discovering that even personal financial decisions involve moral choices about complicity and harm, and that partners can have genuinely different comfort levels with ethical trade-offs.
“Where Are You with Buddhist economics — right livelihood?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.