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Scenario

When couples disagree about giving money to family members

My wife and I can't agree on whether to give my parents money for their mortgage payments and it's causing fights because she thinks they're financially irresponsible and I feel guilty about their situation but we both know this decision will set a precedent for years of requests.

More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The question of financial boundaries with extended family reveals deeper tensions about autonomy, loyalty, and whose judgment ultimately governs shared resources.

Your guide for this
Zera
Zera works with people navigating exactly this kind of situation.
Ideas that help explain it
Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with Money and power — who controls resource flows?”

Peri

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