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When financial fairness becomes relationship surveillance

I keep exact track of who pays for what with my romantic partner, and I think it's killing the romance, but I can't stop keeping score.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desire for equity can transform intimate relationships into transactional exchanges that undermine emotional connection.

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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The meaning of money — what it ultimately is?”

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