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Why being generous can become self-destructive

I keep lending money to friends who never pay me back and I am angry but I also feel like asking for it back makes me a bad person

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The desire to be seen as generous conflicts with legitimate self-protection, creating a cycle that breeds resentment

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