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How practical relationship concerns conflict with romantic ideals

I love my boyfriend but I cannot stop calculating whether he makes enough money to be marriage material, which makes me feel like a terrible person.

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More people experience this than they realize.

What we've seen

The collision between pragmatic needs and idealized love creates shame about legitimate concerns for partnership sustainability.

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Worth thinking about

“Where Are You with The meaning of money — what it ultimately is?”

If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.