My mom insists on giving Christmas and birthday money to all the grandchildren like she always has, but she's spending grocery money to do it and won't let me tell them to refuse it.
More people experience this than they realize.
The role of generous grandparent becomes impossible to abandon even when continuing it threatens basic survival.
“Where Are You with Money and aging parents — the financial caregiving challenge?”
If this sounds familiar, the Library can help you find the bigger picture.