How can I show up for others without losing my own sense of self?

This is the question Rabia lived into her whole life. She loved ferociously—God, people, creation—and never once dissolved into servitude. The difference? Her devotion wasn't transaction. She wasn't loving to be needed, or serving to be seen. She was loving because love was her truest nature. That's what made her whole. When you show up for others from a place of genuine care rather than obligation or fear of abandonment, you stay intact. Notice the difference: Are you helping because it fills a void in you, or because you have something real to give? Are you available because you genuinely want to be, or because you fear disappointing someone? Rabia would say: love the human family with your whole heart, and love yourself with equal devotion. They're not in competition. In fact, when you honor your own boundaries, needs, and rhythms, you show others they can honor theirs too. That's a gift. Real community isn't about self-sacrifice—it's about mutual dignity. Care deeply. Protect your own wholeness. Both are acts of love.