Rabia
Parenting & Community · 119 problems
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Problems (90)
- A close friendship just quietly faded and it hurts
- Am I using screens too much, or am I just surviving?
- How do I give generously without erasing myself?
- How do I host something regular that becomes real community?
- How do I invite people so they actually say yes?
- How do I make service an ordinary daily thing?
- How do we finally get Mom's power of attorney and will done?
- I Never Asked My Parents What Mattered Most to Them
- I take from my community but rarely give — now what?
- Is it okay that all my friendships live online now?
- It's been too long — how do I reach out to my friend now?
- Screens have swallowed your kid and you've lost them to it
- The kids are gone and the house is too quiet
- The same questions, over and over, are wearing you down
- There's a group nearby I've never joined. Why not?
- What if my family's stories die with us?
- Why am I always with people but never truly known?
- Why am I waiting for them to call first?
- Why did I expect my friendships to survive on their own?
- Why do I only praise my child when they win?
- Why do I still call them a friend if I never call?
- Why do I take more from my community than I give?
- Why do my friends only show up when I'm in crisis?
- Why do my friendships fade even though I love my friends?
- Why don't I know my own grandparents' stories?
- Why don't I reconnect with friends once the busy season ends?
- Why don't my volunteering and giving feel like a legacy?
- Why haven't I gotten to know anyone on my street?
- Why Haven't I Recorded My Grandparents' Stories Yet?
- Why haven't I sat down to record my family's stories?
- Why haven't I texted my friend back in months?
- You and your adult child fight every time you talk
- You and your ex can't agree on how to raise the kids
- You and your in-laws just don't get along
- You and your spouse disagree on how to parent
- You blended two families and the kids don't get along
- You bribe to get through the moment, without knowing what it teaches
- You can't tell discipline from punishment
- You dread the family holidays every year
- You fear they'll remember the tired, short-tempered you
- You feel guilty for wanting time away from your kids
- You feel invisible in your own family
- You feel like you're failing as a parent
- You get stuck in small talk and never get past it
- You hold yourself to perfect parenting and fail it daily
- You lost a parent and the grief keeps ambushing you
- You love them deeply but can't show it easily
- You love your baby and you're completely overwhelmed
- You love your family and they're driving you crazy
- You moved for life and still don't have real friends
- You parent by whatever ends the fight fastest
- You praise what they achieve, never who they are
- You protect them from disappointment, and it arrives anyway
- You want real friends but don't know how to make them as an adult
- You want to be the parent your kid comes to
- You want to leave something behind but don't know what
- You went no-contact with a parent and people judge you
- You're a grandparent and your kids won't let you help
- You're a single parent doing it all alone
- You're a stepparent and you feel like an outsider in your own home
- You're always caught in the middle of family drama
- You're caring for your kids and your parents at the same time
- You're drowning in the mental load of running the family
- You're grieving your parent while they're still alive
- You're lonely even though you're surrounded by people
- You're raising kids with no family nearby to help
- You're the family peacekeeper and you're exhausted
- You're turning into your parent and you hate it
- You've lived here for years and still feel like an outsider
- Your "high standards" are really control over who they can be
- Your adult child has stopped speaking to you
- Your adult child is making choices you can't watch
- Your adult kids never call
- Your child came out and you don't know how to respond
- Your child has special needs and you're overwhelmed and alone
- Your family doesn't respect your boundaries
- Your family scattered and you never all get together anymore
- Your grandkids live far away and you barely know them
- Your grown kid moved back home and it's tense
- Your kid is anxious and you don't know how to help
- Your kid is being bullied and you feel helpless
- Your kid lies to you and you don't know what's real
- Your kids fight constantly and it's wearing you down
- Your parent is getting old and suddenly needs you
- Your parent was hard on you and you don't want to repeat it
- Your sibling and you haven't spoken in years
- Your teen wants more freedom than you're ready to give
- Your teenager has gone quiet and you don't know how to reach them
- Your teenager is dating someone you don't trust
- Your toddler's meltdowns are making you lose it too
Group sessions (29)
For couples, families, teams, and more — worked through together in a shared group account.
- A friend had a baby. We grew distant. What do I do now?Group
- How do I ask my parents what really mattered to them?Group
- How do we save our family's stories before it's too late?Group
- I take so much from this community and give so littleGroup
- No Legal Papers for My Parent's Care — Where Do We Start?Group
- Our family's stories will die with our elders. What do we do?Group
- There's a Group Near Me I've Never Joined — Why Not?Group
- Too much time passed with my friend — is it too late?Group
- We Keep Saying We'll Do My Parent's Papers—Why Don't We?Group
- When a family has to have the hard conversationFamily
- When a family wants the holidays to stop being a battlefieldFamily
- When a family wants to heal an old riftFamily
- When co-parents need to get on the same pageFamily
- When grandparents and parents need to agree on their rolesFamily
- When neighbors want to become a real communityCommunity
- When newcomers to a place want to build real belongingCommunity
- When old friends want to stay close through busy yearsFriends
- When parents want a real support circle, not just small talkParents
- When siblings must care for an aging parent togetherFamily
- Why do I have a crowd of friends but no one I'm close to?Group
- Why do I never reconnect with friends who went quiet?Group
- Why do I only praise my kid when they win?Group
- Why do I still feel like a stranger on my own street?Group
- Why do I use the screen more than I meant to?Group
- Why do my friendships fade when I go quiet?Group
- Why do we only show up for each other in a crisis?Group
- Why does not knowing my grandparents leave such a hole?Group
- Why Does Someone Else Always Clean Up After Us?Group
- Why doesn't my volunteering feel like a legacy?Group