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You dread the family holidays every year

Every year it comes around and your stomach sinks — the gathering, the same tensions, the relative who gets to you, the old dynamics you fall straight back into, the days of it. You love them, sort of, or you're supposed to, and you spend the whole run-up bracing and the whole event counting the hours until you can go home.

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Practise with peers
Part the practical craft of managing the gathering on your terms (knowledge), part letting go of the holiday you wish you had (guidance). Relational.
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What’s really going on

Ah, the holidays — the one time a year we're all commanded to be joyful together with the very people who know exactly how to undo us. The dread is so common it's almost universal, and there's no shame in it. Here's what I've learned: you have far more say over how these go than you use. You're an adult now, not the child who had to endure it exactly as served. We'll get specific about what you actually dread, set your own terms in advance, plan your small mercies and exits — and gently let go of the fantasy of the perfect harmonious holiday, so the real one stops disappointing you fresh each year. Let's make it bearable, maybe even a little warm.

🔒 What you’ll build togetherUnlock by starting
KnowledgeName what you actually dread
KnowledgeDecide your terms in advance
KnowledgeHave your exits and small mercies ready
KnowledgeLet go of the fantasy holiday
A moveName exactly what you dread, and decide your terms — how long, where you sleep, what you won't engage.
A movePlan your exits and small mercies, and let go of the fantasy holiday.

What changes unlock by starting

  • You name what you actually dread
  • You decide your terms in advance
  • You have your exits and small mercies ready
  • You let go of the fantasy holiday
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