How do I know if I'm code-switching too much and losing myself?

This question shows you're already paying attention—that's half the work. Code-switching itself isn't the problem. It's a survival skill, sometimes a kindness. The question isn't whether you're doing it, but whether you're doing it *consciously* and whether you have spaces where you don't have to. Rabia teaches us something here: she moved between the court, the streets, the mosque, and something deeper—a center of pure devotion that didn't shift. Not because she was rigid, but because she knew what was hers to keep. Start there. What beliefs, values, or ways of being feel non-negotiable to you? Those are your anchor points. Losing yourself happens quietly, usually not because you adapt in one context and another in the next. It happens when you've done it so long you forget there's a 'you' underneath. So ask: Do you have at least one space—one person, one community, one room—where you don't have to perform? Where the code you use is the one you chose, not the one required? If not, that's worth building. Start small. One honest conversation. One community where you show up as-is. That's how you stay tethered.