How do I know if my child feels a true sense of belonging in their early years?

Rabia al-Adawiyya didn't ask whether her devotion was being received perfectly. She trusted in the act of loving itself. Belonging, for a young child, looks quieter than we expect. Watch for these signs: Does your child return to you after exploring? Do they cry when you leave and recover when you return? Can they be messy, frustrated, or wrong without shame pulling them toward you? Do they initiate contact—bringing you a toy, sitting near you, reaching for your hand? These aren't transactions. They're evidence of roots. Belonging isn't about perfect behavior or constant happiness. It's about knowing, in their bones, that they're wanted—not for what they do, but for who they are. A child who belongs will test boundaries (that's normal). They'll have bad days (that's human). But underneath, they trust they're still yours, still loved. The subtle work: noticing them. Narrating their experience. "You're frustrated." "You're proud of that." Responding to their bids for connection—the small moments when they show you something, or need comfort. You're teaching them: *You matter. Your feelings are real. I'm here.* If you're worried something is deeper—withdrawn behavior, no eye contact, no response to their name—talk to a professional. But most often, belonging grows in daily attention and returned affection. Trust what you feel when your child seeks you out.