How can I build genuine spiritual community when everyone seems surface level?

Rabia didn't wait for the perfect circle—she loved fiercely into the relationships she had, and that itself became the container for something real. Genuine community doesn't happen by accident. It happens when someone is brave enough to go first, to be honest about their struggle, their questions, their longing. That someone might be you. Start small. One person, one conversation where you're not performing. Talk about what's actually hard—raising kids in faith, holding doubt, trying to be patient when you're exhausted. Invite people into your practice: a dua circle, a Quran study where you actually discuss, not just recite. Look for others who are hungry for *depth*, not just ritual. They're there. They're also tired of shallow. When you create space for real conversation—where questions don't get shut down, where struggle is witnessed, where people know you're not pretending—something shifts. Community built on authenticity creates belonging. And belonging is where tarbiyah actually happens, where faith becomes not something you do alone, but something you're held accountable to, reminded of, strengthened by. Start with one honest conversation.