How do I show my parents I love them without feeling obligated or resentful?

This is the question Rabia would have asked too—the difference between love as a transaction and love as a choice. What you're feeling matters. Real devotion doesn't come from duty; it comes from presence. Start by noticing where the resentment lives. Is it in unmet expectations? In time you feel forced to give? In the weight of their needs versus yours? These aren't failures of love—they're the honest edges where love meets reality. Rabia loved without condition, but she didn't erase herself doing it. She knew the difference between showing up and burning out. So ask yourself: what would feel genuine right now? A weekly call instead of daily texts? Help with one specific thing, done willingly? A conversation where you say what's actually true? Love that doesn't resent grows from boundaries, not the absence of them. When you give from what you actually have—time, energy, presence—instead of what you think you should have, the resentment softens. Your parents get the real you. And you get to keep yourself. That's the paradox Rabia lived: the most generous love is the one that doesn't disappear you.