How do I build community support without it feeling like I'm airing my child's struggles publicly?

This is the tension, isn't it? You need help. You need people. But your child's story isn't yours alone to tell, and you're right to feel protective of that boundary. Rabia al-Adawiyya lived in community—she was surrounded by seekers, by people who witnessed her devotion. But she didn't perform her struggles for an audience. She was simply known, deeply, by a few. That's the model here. You don't have to broadcast your child's diagnosis to access support. You can be honest about being overwhelmed without naming specifics. "We're navigating something complex right now" is enough for a trusted friend to offer a meal or an ear. The people who truly belong in your circle will sit with that ambiguity. Practically: Build a small inner ring—maybe a therapist, one trusted friend, a support group for parents (where confidentiality is assumed). These spaces let you be fully honest. For everyone else, you can be real without being revealing. "It's been hard" is true. It's also private. Community isn't about transparency. It's about being held. Find the people who can hold you without needing the whole story. That's enough.