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How do I stay connected to myself during pregnancy when my body feels unfamiliar?
Your body isn't betraying you—it's translating. Rabia teaches us that true devotion includes befriending what we didn't choose. Pregnancy strips away the distance between you and your physical self in ways nothing else does. That strangeness? It's also intimacy. Start small: notice one sensation without judgment each day. Not the nausea or the ache, necessarily—maybe how sunlight feels on your skin, or how your breath moves differently now. These aren't distractions from the 'real' experience. They are the real experience. Write down what you notice, not to fix it, but to stay present with it. Some days you'll feel like a stranger in your own skin. Other days you'll feel the profound realness of being exactly where you need to be. Both are true. The belonging you're seeking isn't somewhere else—it's in this exact moment of not-knowing, of your body doing what it does without your permission. That's where the deepest kind of devotion begins: loving what is, not what you imagined it would be.
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What if I feel disconnected from the baby during pregnancy?+
That disconnection is normal and doesn't mean anything is wrong. Love in pregnancy isn't always immediate—sometimes it arrives slowly, after birth, or in unexpected moments. Rabia's devotion wasn't about feeling constantly close; it was about showing up anyway. Try talking to your baby, not expecting a response. Singing. Noticing when they move. These small acts create relationship, not because you feel bonded, but because you're present.
How do I handle people's comments about my pregnant body?+
Protect your inner experience fiercely. You don't owe anyone access to your body or your feelings about it. When comments come—and they will—remember: your pregnancy belongs to you, not to their narrative. A simple 'thank you for caring' or silence works. What matters is what you believe about yourself in these nine months.
Is it okay to feel grief alongside joy during pregnancy?+
Yes. You're grieving a version of yourself and your life that's being transformed. You're also anticipating joy. These exist together. Rabia understood that love and longing and loss move through us simultaneously. Your feelings don't need to be resolved into one neat emotion. Hold them all.