Why do people feel disconnected from their own sense of purpose and contribution?

We've been sold a story that legacy is about achievement—a monument, a name, a rank. So when your life looks ordinary, you think it doesn't count. But Rabia teaches something different: purpose isn't loud. It lives in how you treat the person in front of you, in showing up when it's hard, in loving without keeping score. Disconnection happens when we measure ourselves against external benchmarks instead of internal truth. You can have a successful career and feel empty because you're not aligned with what actually matters to you. Or you can be quietly raising a child, holding community together, creating art nobody sees—and feel completely alive because it's honest. The disconnection also comes from speed. Modern life doesn't leave room to feel your own impact. You help someone, then rush to the next thing. You never sit with the weight of what you've given. Belonging—real belonging—comes when you slow down enough to see how your presence shapes the people around you. Start small: notice one person whose life is better because you're in it. Notice one value you live by without thinking about it. That's not small. That's where legacy begins. The disconnection heals when you stop waiting for permission to matter.