Treating yourself as Rabia treated the Divine—as worthy of pure devotion—to heal the abandonment and unworthiness passed down through family lines.
Rabia's relationship with the Divine was one of intimate belonging, not earned through performance or suffering. Intergenerational trauma often instills a core belief that you must suffer, prove yourself, or remain invisible to belong. By consciously adopting the posture of 'the Beloved'—seeing yourself through eyes of unconditional regard—you rewire the neurobiology of belonging. This practice means speaking to yourself as Rabia spoke to God: with tenderness, presence, and trust. You become the secure attachment figure your ancestors may not have had. This inner belonging is the foundation from which you can then extend genuine safety to your children, breaking the cycle of conditional love.
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