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This client is running me ragged — how do I get control back?

You say this client is running you ragged. Look closer. They send a message, and you drop everything. They push, and you bend. That is not their power over you. That is a habit you built, one yes at a time. Their chaos is theirs. Unclear requests, last-minute demands, bad moods — none of that is yours to fix. What is yours: the hours you protect, the answers you choose to give, and the boundaries you say out loud instead of just feeling them in your chest. You keep asking how to handle a difficult client. Wrong question. The real question is what you will take on, and what you will not. That choice is yours right now, before the next message even arrives.

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GuidanceKnowledge
More coaching
A little to learn
1:1 with AureliusWith others (a Pod)
Mostly you & the coach
A little with peers
The person likely already knows client-management tactics; what they lack is the discipline to separate the client's behavior from their own choices, which is coaching work, not new information.
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What’s really going on

The client did not take your peace of mind. You handed it over. You cannot control their demands, their tone, or their timeline. You can control what you agree to, what you answer today, and what you carry home after hours. Start there.

🔒 What you’ll build togetherUnlock by starting
A moveWrite one sentence stating what hours and requests you will respond to, and say it to the client directly.
A moveBefore you answer their next demand, ask yourself: is this mine to solve, or theirs to wait on?
A movePick one boundary this week. Hold it the first time they push against it.
A moveWhen you catch yourself replaying their complaints after work, stop, name it, and return to what is actually in front of you.
A moveDecide now what you will do if they escalate, so you are not deciding in the middle of the fire.

What changes unlock by starting

  • You respond to the client on purpose, instead of reacting on command.
  • You have one plain sentence ready for when they push past reasonable hours.
  • The client takes up less space in your evening.
  • You know, before the next demand lands, what you will and will not do.

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