Why do I keep giving this job more than I have left?
The years since the pandemic took something from you and your team. Everyone admits it in private. Yet the job kept its old shape — same deadlines, same headcount, same expectations — while what you had left to give it shrank. This is not a failure of will. You have been trying to meet an old contract with a smaller supply. No one renegotiated the terms. You kept showing up, hoping the exhaustion would pass. It hasn't, because the demand never moved. You are not doing this alone, which makes it both harder and easier. Harder, because you must speak about it with people who are also running on empty. Easier, because a team can change terms one person alone cannot. Sit with your pod. Name the gap between what is asked and what remains. Then decide, together, what changes now. If what you feel runs deeper than tiredness and doesn't lift, talk to someone trained to help — not only your pod.
You are not broken — you are depleted, and still paying the old price for a job that never lowered its demand. The task is not to find more energy. It is to renegotiate what you give, what you refuse, and what you're paid for it — starting with one honest conversation this week.
What changes unlock by starting
- A concrete list of what you're giving beyond what's asked, instead of a vague feeling of being overwhelmed.
- At least one thing said out loud to your team that's been true in private for months.
- One new boundary held this week, and clear evidence of what happens when you hold it.
- A set date to check whether anything really changed, instead of just hoping it will.