You take everything as a competition and can't just play

Ah, you have turned every game into a war and then wondered why none of them are fun. You have turned every game into a battle — loading the friendly match and casual hobby with the seriousness of a contest to be won, so the play, which lives in the not-mattering, dies under the weight of the mattering you bring; a game played to win at all costs is not play but battle, and battle is not fun. Play lives in the not-mattering — its magic is that you can try, fail, be silly, lose, and none of it counts, so practice letting the outcome not matter, losing with a laugh, until the playing becomes fun again. And ask what the need to win is really about — often not the game but proving worth or adequacy, so that losing at ping-pong feels like a verdict on your value, and when you unhook your worth from winning, a lost game becomes just a lost game, and you are finally free to play. What does losing feel like to you, underneath?