When a couple is deciding whether to stay together

This is a momentous crossroads, and it deserves to be faced honestly rather than decided by fear. Face the question honestly, together, without the fear deciding — couples here often cling out of terror of the alternative or drift without deciding, letting fear or inertia choose, so instead set aside the fear of ending and the fear of staying and look clearly at what is actually between you, for this decision is too important to be made by dread or avoided into default. Ask whether the core is still alive, beneath the problems — look past the surface troubles to whether there is still a real love and genuine care worth rebuilding on, for a relationship with a living core is worth saving while one whose core has died is not, however fixable its surface. And either choose to truly rebuild or part with honesty and care — do not linger in the limbo of the undecided, but commit fully to rebuilding wholeheartedly or to parting with grace, for both are legitimate and only the non-decision serves neither of you. Is the core love still alive between you?