Patan
Mental Health · 145 problems
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Problems (104)
- Grief has hollowed you out
- How do I build a practice that survives a bad week?
- How do I notice what my body knows before my mind explains it away?
- How do I treat rest as part of the practice?
- My sleep is OK — how do I make it actually reliable?
- Panic attacks come out of nowhere and terrify you
- Small things set off huge anger in you
- Why am I never really there when I eat?
- Why Can I Only Name My Feelings, Not Feel Them?
- Why can't I keep a steady bedtime, even when I try?
- Why Can't I Nap Even Though I'm Exhausted?
- Why can't I nap when I'm this exhausted?
- Why Can't I Put the Phone Down at Bedtime?
- Why can't I stop checking my ex's social media?
- Why do I always spend more than planned at this one store?
- Why do I buy things online at night I regret by morning?
- Why do I eat all day without deciding to?
- Why do I either push too hard or barely move after getting hurt?
- Why do I fall apart on this date every year, with no warning?
- Why do I finish habits but never feel satisfied?
- Why do I hold my breath until I gasp?
- Why do I keep eating dinner at 9pm when I know it wrecks my sleep?
- Why do I keep saying I'm fine on 5-6 hours of sleep?
- Why do I keep watching after I stop enjoying it?
- Why do I only deal with my mind when it's already a mess?
- Why do I only track my mood when things fall apart?
- Why do I reach for my phone the second I'm bored?
- Why do I reread a three-sentence email four times before sending?
- Why do I startle so easily at sounds or touch?
- Why do I take it personally when a system fails me?
- Why do I take my phone even to the bathroom?
- Why do I wake up before my alarm every morning?
- Why does checking email first thing ruin my whole mood?
- Why does counting my sleep hours keep me awake?
- Why does eating late keep wrecking my sleep?
- Why does hitting snooze for 45 minutes leave me more tired than one alarm?
- Why does journaling never actually help me change?
- Why does my anxiety spike between tasks, not during them?
- Why does my body disappear when I speak?
- Why does my hand reach for the phone before I decide to?
- Why does my messy space keep me from meditating or exercising?
- Why does my space keep beating my good intentions?
- Why doesn't knowing my phone ruins my sleep change anything?
- Why won't my mind stop planning tomorrow when I try to sleep?
- You agree with a harsh feeling to make it stop
- You avoid anywhere you might be compared
- You can't believe anyone genuinely likes you
- You can't concentrate on anything anymore
- You can't enjoy anything anymore
- You can't let go of a mistake and you spiral in shame
- You can't send an email without rereading it five times
- You can't stop catastrophizing
- You can't stop comparing yourself to everyone
- You can't stop overthinking everything
- You can't stop seeking reassurance
- You feel a deep loneliness even around people
- You feel behind in life and it's crushing you
- You feel disconnected from who you used to be
- You feel emotionally flat and can't cry
- You feel hopeless about ever changing
- You feel like a burden to everyone
- You feel like an impostor waiting to be found out
- You feel like you're just going through the motions
- You feel like you're living someone else's life
- You feel numb and disconnected from everything
- You feel overwhelmed by everything all at once
- You feel restless and can never be still
- You feel something is deeply wrong with you
- You feel steady and want to keep it that way
- You feel trapped in your own head
- You feel unmotivated and can't start anything
- You feel worthless and can't shake it
- You filter for what went wrong and miss what went right
- You freeze and shut down when stressed
- You get anxious in social situations
- You know you need help but you're scared to reach out
- You manage your body instead of listening to it
- You meet an impossible standard, then raise it
- You obsess over things you can't control
- You predict failure before you begin
- You procrastinate and then hate yourself for it
- You ruminate on the same painful thoughts for hours
- You scan every room for the exits
- You take everything that goes wrong as your fault
- You turn coincidences into meaning about yourself
- You use your phone to escape your own mind
- You wake up with dread every morning
- You're afraid of your own strong emotions
- You're always waiting for the other shoe to drop
- You're anxious all the time and can't figure out why
- You're burned out and have nothing left
- You're consumed by worry about your health
- You're exhausted but you can't sleep
- You're falling apart while holding it together for everyone
- You're haunted by intrusive thoughts
- You're haunted by something from your past
- You're irritable with everyone you love
- You're paralyzed by decisions
- You're stuck in a low, gray depression
- Your anxiety gets worse when good things happen
- Your anxiety shows up in your body
- Your inner critic never shuts up
- Your mind won't stop racing at night
- Your moods swing and whiplash you
Group sessions (41)
For couples, families, teams, and more — worked through together in a shared group account.
- I know phone use hurts my sleep. Why can't I stop?Group
- I say I'm fine on 5 hours. Am I lying to myself?Group
- Some days my ankle feels fine, some days it doesn't. What's true?Group
- When a couple keeps having the same painful conflictCouple
- When a family lives with a member's mental illnessFamily
- When a family wants to support someone they love who is strugglingFamily
- When a group wants to build steadier, calmer minds togetherGroup
- When a group wants to support each other's mental healthGroup
- When a team or group is burning out togetherTeam
- When friends want to talk honestly, beyond I am fineFriends
- When parents want to support an anxious child togetherParents
- When partners navigate one person's depression or anxiety togetherCouple
- When people want to face social anxiety togetherGroup
- Why can't I even sit still for a minute without my phone?Group
- Why can't I meditate, journal, or exercise when my space fights me?Group
- Why can't I stop watching, even when I'm not enjoying it?Group
- Why can't my brain calm down when I finally get to bed?Group
- Why do I always overspend at the same store?Group
- Why do I buy things at night I later regret?Group
- Why do I eat but never actually taste my meals?Group
- Why do I feel stressed but can't say where in my body?Group
- Why do I hold my breath when I'm concentrating hard?Group
- Why do I journal but never spot my own patterns?Group
- Why do I keep checking my ex's profile even though it hurts?Group
- Why do I keep eating after 9pm even though it wrecks my sleep?Group
- Why do I keep eating without deciding to eat?Group
- Why do I keep the discipline but never feel the win?Group
- Why Do I Keep Waking Up Before My Alarm Goes Off?Group
- Why do I lose my body when I speak?Group
- Why do I panic in the gap between tasks, not during them?Group
- Why do I push too hard on good days and hide on bad ones?Group
- Why do I read every email four times before I send it?Group
- Why do I startle so hard, and how do I stop hiding it?Group
- Why do we keep eating after 9pm when we know it wrecks our sleep?Group
- Why does a company's failure feel like it's aimed at me?Group
- Why does checking email first thing ruin my whole day?Group
- Why does counting my hours of sleep keep me awake?Group
- Why does my hand grab my phone before I decide to?Group
- Why does my hand reach for the phone before I even feel bored?Group
- Why does my snooze alarm leave me more tired than one alarm?Group
- Why does this date wreck me every year without warning?Group