You feel hopeless about ever changing
You have tried before and slipped back, and now a heavy conviction has settled over you: that you will never really change, that this is just who you are and always will be. The hopelessness makes even trying feel pointless, and you have started to give up on the idea of things ever being different.
Hopelessness is a heavy state, and the most important thing to see is that it is a state, not a truth. Three things. Hopelessness is a mood, and moods are not oracles — it cannot see the future, it only colors the present dark and calls that a forecast, so recognize it as a state you are in rather than a truth you have found. You have already changed before, and forgotten it — look honestly and you will find changes you once thought impossible, and the mood has hidden that evidence, which is the truest answer to the despair. And change comes in small steps, not sudden transformation, so lower the bar from becoming new overnight to the next smallest movement, which is always available, even now. If the hopelessness is deep, please let a good doctor help carry it. What makes you feel change is impossible for you?
What changes unlock by starting
- You see hopelessness as a mood, not truth
- You recall the change you've already made
- You lower the bar to the next small step
- You find that change is possible after all