Jealousy is poisoning your relationship

Jealousy is a fire that burns the one who holds it, and I will help you understand what it is really about. The jealousy is usually about your own fear, not their behavior — underneath it is a fear of not being enough, of being replaceable, an insecurity that predates this partner, pointing outward at them but originating inward, so you cannot solve an inner fear by controlling an outer person; the real work is within. Trying to control them feeds the poison — every act of checking and restricting corrodes the trust, makes your partner feel imprisoned, teaches your fear the danger is real, and produces the very distance you feared, so set down the control, for it is killing the love, not protecting it. And heal the insecurity, and speak the fear instead of acting it — tend the old wound beneath, and say I am feeling insecure and afraid right now instead of interrogating them, which turns the jealousy into a vulnerability shared that draws them closer. What are you most afraid of losing?