You keep choosing the wrong people

This repetition is worth understanding, not despairing over, for the pattern points to something you can change. The pattern is a clue, and the clue points inward — the same wrong kind keeps appearing because something in you is doing the choosing, drawn reliably to a particular flavor of wrong, so look at what your wrong ones have in common, for their shared quality mirrors the thing in you that selects them; this locates the power in you, which mere bad luck would not. You are drawn to the wrong for reasons worth understanding — the exciting unavailability that echoes an old love you chased, the familiar unkindness you learned to expect — so understand the pull with compassion rather than scolding yourself, which loosens its grip. And let the right ones have a chance, even without the old spark — the wrong ones come with an intense spark that is often just your wound being poked, so distrust it and stay with the steady ones past the initial flatness, letting a better love reveal itself. What do your wrong ones have in common?