Your ambition is treated as inappropriate for someone like you

My ambition to learn and write was called a scandal in a woman, so I know exactly this double standard and its purpose. Ambition is only called inappropriate in those not meant to have it — the same drive is praised as admirable in others of the expected kind, so what is drive in one is called arrogance in you, the identical quality judged by who possesses it; your ambition is not too much, only forbidden to you specifically by those who reserve it for themselves. Do not let their disapproval shrink your reach — the danger is that being told your ambition is unbecoming, you curb it and fulfill the expectation that you stay small, so hold your full ambition regardless, for your reach answers to your own gifts, not their permission. And your ambition, realized, widens the road for others — every person who reaches where they were told not to makes it more possible for the next, so pursue it as pioneering, not selfish. Reach high, and clear the path behind you. Where is your ambition treated as inappropriate?