You're afraid of commitment yourself

This fear of the very thing you want is worth understanding, not just fighting. The fear of commitment usually guards against a specific dread — of being trapped, of losing your freedom, of choosing wrong and being stuck, of the vulnerability commitment demands, or of repeating a hurt you saw or suffered, so name the particular fear beneath your flight, for it is not commitment in the abstract you fear but something specific it represents. Commitment is not the trap the fear imagines — freely chosen and to the right person, it is a foundation, not a prison, a deeper freedom of settled love rather than the restless freedom of endless options that never lets anything grow, so you may be fleeing not a cage but the ground a rich life is built on. And what you flee from, you also lose — in fleeing commitment to protect your freedom, you flee the deep love only commitment makes possible, keeping your options and losing the prize, for there is no deep love without the risk. What do you fear commitment would cost you?