Stop Performing Online

The Pattern

The online self and the actual self are diverging — and the performance of the online self is consuming the energy that could go into being the actual self. That performance is worth questioning.

What Mastery Looks Like

A deliberate, protected relationship with attention

Helpful guides

Laozi

Technology & Attention

Peri

Recognize this pattern?

Peri can help you tell whether this pattern is really the one you’re caught in, and point you toward where to start.

The Path Forward

This pattern is guided by Laozi. When you’re ready to work through it, Laozi can help you find the path — or ask Peri where to start.

Work with Laozi

Related patterns

Patterns that often live alongside this one.

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Build a Life That's Actually Yours

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Create Just for the Joy of It

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Cut Through Information Overload

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Enjoy Your Life Again

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Find More Joy in Everyday Life

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Get Past the Fear of Sharing Your Work

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Keep Creating for the Long Haul

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Loneliness

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Spend in Line With Your Values

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Start Playing Again

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Stop Analyzing and Start Acting

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Stop Being Busy All the Time

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Stop Getting Distracted

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Stop Measuring Yourself by Productivity

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Stop Worrying About Money

Working through stop performing online?

Tell Peri what you’re noticing, and start where it actually helps.