You can't be spontaneous anymore
Everything in your life is planned, scheduled, arranged in advance — and you have lost all spontaneity. You cannot just do something on a whim, say yes to the unexpected, or let the day surprise you. Your life runs on rails, orderly and predictable, and you miss the fun of the sudden, unplanned, spontaneous joys you used to allow.
Ah, you have organized the surprise right out of your life — a common feat, and an undoable one. You have scheduled the surprise out of your life — the unexpected cannot enter a life with no unplanned room to enter through, so your spontaneity did not die of old age; you scheduled over it, and what was scheduled out can be left unscheduled again. Say yes to the unplanned thing when it appears — spontaneity is mostly a matter of saying yes to the sudden invitation or whim before the sensible part lists the reasons not to, and your yes has rusted from disuse, so practice it. And leave gaps for life to surprise you — the surprise needs somewhere to land, so leave unplanned afternoons and open evenings, uncomfortable as it is to the planner in you, for into that space wander the unexpected joys a booked life shuts out. Where is your life most rigidly planned?
What changes unlock by starting
- You see you scheduled spontaneity out
- You say yes to unplanned things again
- You leave gaps for surprise to land
- You let life bring you what you didn't arrange