You want more affection than your partner gives

This ache for more warmth than you receive is common and workable, so let me ease it. Different needs for affection are not a sign of failed love — people genuinely differ in how much affection they need and express, so a partner who gives less than you crave is not necessarily loving you less, only working from a different natural measure; the mismatch does not mean the love is failing or you want too much. Ask for what you need, specifically and without shame — a partner with a lower measure often cannot read your silent longing, so say, I need more affection; it would mean a great deal if you held me more, for many partners told plainly are glad to give more once they know. And learn each other's language, and meet partway — perhaps they show love through acts or words rather than the touch you crave, so learn to receive their way even as you ask them to stretch toward yours, both meeting generously in the middle. What affection do you most crave that you're not getting?