When a couple wants to fall back in love

Wanting to fall back in love is a hopeful and achievable aim, and I who know love's fire will help you rekindle yours. The in-love feeling can be rekindled, not only mourned — the early rush faded as it always does, but the capacity for it went dormant under routine, not dead, so you are not resurrecting something dead but reawakening something sleeping. Recreate the conditions that first sparked the love — novelty, adventure, deep conversation, undivided attention, the excitement of discovery — for the in-love feeling arises from specific conditions, so do together the kinds of things that made you fall the first time, and the falling can happen again. And see each other fresh, as the fascinating strangers you once were — much of falling out is the loss of fascination, the settling into assuming you fully know them, so approach each other with curiosity as though they were still a mystery, which they are, having changed over the years. Rediscover each other, and the love rediscovers itself. What first made you fall in love?