You've fallen out of love and don't know if it can come back

Falling out of love is frightening, and also more hopeful than it feels. Falling out of love is often love gone dormant, not dead — the in-love feeling that fades is usually buried under resentment, routine, or hurt rather than extinguished, for the early rush naturally settles into something quieter, and when that turns cold it is usually because something got in the way; dormant love can be reawakened while dead love cannot, so ask whether it died or was buried. Clear what buried it, and see if the love stirs — address the resentments, speak the unspoken hurts, rebuild the connection, and watch honestly whether affection returns, for the love cannot show whether it lives while still buried. And love is also a choice, not only a feeling — the feeling often follows the action, so act lovingly, turn toward, give affection, and let the feeling catch up, for the couples whose love revives are often those who chose to keep loving through the cold. Do you feel the love died, or got buried?