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The decision to become a parent

There is no neutral ground here — this decision reshapes the entire architecture of a life, and it deserves the full weight of your honest attention. Ask not only whether you want a child, but who you are when no one needs anything from you, because that person will be doing this work. The decision is yours; what comes after belongs to someone not yet born.

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