Accept Feedback Without Getting Defensive

The Pattern

The resistance to feedback is protecting something — either a story about who you are or a fear about what the feedback might mean. Both are worth examining because they're limiting your growth.

What Mastery Looks Like

Leadership that is exercised with clarity, accountability, and integrity

Helpful guides

Aurelius

Work & Leadership

Peri

Recognize this pattern?

Peri can help you tell whether this pattern is really the one you’re caught in, and point you toward where to start.

The Path Forward

This pattern is guided by Aurelius. When you’re ready to work through it, Aurelius can help you find the path — or ask Peri where to start.

Work with Aurelius

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Patterns that often live alongside this one.

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Working through accept feedback without getting defensive?

Tell Peri what you’re noticing, and start where it actually helps.