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What not to say to a grieving person

The phrase "They're in a better place" and similar well-meaning remarks can cause genuine harm — not because the speaker is cruel but because they reflect the speaker's discomfort with sorrow more than they respond to the mourner's actual need. This domain examines what doesn't help, why these things get said anyway, and what to do instead.

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